The Eternal Search for Stillness

‘Within you there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself’.

 Hermann Hesse

Stillness is something that most of us yearn for, and very few experience regularly in adulthood. Yet it is quite the opposite in childhood. Most children can occupy themselves for hours with very few or no resources at all and seem in a perfect state of tranquility. When those moments of quiet stillness arise later in life, it is often a reminder of those delicate days of innocence accompanied with a desire to return once again to that state. Thus, it is through a gentle understanding of the Three Principles that we may return more frequently to a sense of inner peace and stillness, without the need for any external stimuli at all.

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The Gateway to Softness

‘Nothing is so strong as gentleness, nothing so gentle as real strength’.
Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

In the last year of living in Britain I was invited as a guest speaker for an enterprising and newly formed Three Principles organisation on the south coast. As we walked towards the talk venue after a shared meal at a local Indian restaurant, I was asked an intriguing yet often asked question: “Do you really never prepare for a talk, at all?” I laughed and replied that no, I hadn’t ever prepared anything for any talk I had given on the Three Principles, adding that it would be impossible to do so. Because how can one prepare for the unknown?

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“I loved you while you lived, I love you still”: Some reflections on the experience of loss

‘Where there is love there is life’. 
Mahatma Gandhi 

Love is a strange and wondrous thing; we say we love so many things, people, music, art, animals, flowers, food, the list is endless and no doubt each one of you could add something new to the list. It is the diversity of human thought expressed through the beauty of being; we literally swim in a sea of love.

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The Space Just Beyond Forgiveness

‘Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it’.

Mark Twain

About two or three weeks after meeting Dr Roger Mills and learning of the Three Principles I was in the school library with a group of students writing English assignments. I had been working at this school for about a year and seemed to be a relatively popular teacher (not many children actually like school, I know I didn’t). Now, I had become: “The best teacher in the whole world”, on hearing this I told the pupils that they didn’t know all the other teachers in the world so how could they distinguish. Their answer was simple: “We don’t need to know them, we know you”.

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Becoming the Mirror to All of the Beauty in the World

A thing of beauty is a joy for ever:
Its loveliness increases; it will never
Pass into nothingness

John Keats

In December of 2010 we were travelling to Victoria, Australia as I had been invited to give a talk to a Raw Food potluck group in Melbourne about the Three Principles, entitled ‘Understanding Living Consciousness’. Once we had arrived and settled into our accommodation we were invited for a beautiful day out to visit the host’s farm, which was a couple hours out of the city in the Yarra Valley. There we met our host’s eldest daughter Jess who was just 16 at the time, and she and I hit it off immediately. 

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Living Just Outside the Edge of Time

“Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.” 

Henry Van Dyke

It was a clear and sunny day at Heathrow Airport in early December 2001; security was manic and the queues were long and slow moving. They were even stopping people just before boarding and making them empty the contents of their luggage out onto a table. I witnessed a lot of distressed and agitated people, some wishing to simply get on and settled, some merely doing their work as best they could in the circumstances of new security procedures. 

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The State of Meditation: ‘Undressing’* the Human Condition

“Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around in awareness.”

James Thurber

Being a former meditation teacher I am often asked about this subject. It is a fascinating one for me because I started meditating from the tender age of 17. I appreciate that in some Buddhist countries this starts much earlier, yet growing up in a small and rather conservative historical town in Britain, this was seen as somewhat unusual. 

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Work is the Tantric Guru

‘Nothing is work, unless you’d rather be doing something else’.

George Halas

Many years ago I remember reading Jean Liedloff’s thought provoking book The Continuum Concept and being struck by the story she told of a Venezuelan tribe that had no word for ‘work’. The tribe simply saw the tasks they needed to perform each day as something to be carried out with joy, this really gripped my imagination. They would laugh and joke, even when things clearly weren’t going their way.

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You are the Solution you have been Looking for

“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”

Mark Twain

When things are getting tough in life, we often turn to the world and look for a reason for our pain, our upset, our misery, and as if by magic, we always seem to find the perfect scapegoat. This seems to be temporarily useful, as it serves as help to justify why we feel the way we do. Yet if we take a closer look at the situation we find that the culprit is not out there in the world, but in fact, right where it all started: in our thinking. It is the way we are ‘seeing’ the situation via what we think about it, creating the feeling response we have to it. 

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How to Break Free from the Past: A Crisis from Memory is not the same as a Crisis happening in the Moment.

When we are in the middle of a crisis we do the best we can to get through it, but when it comes back as a thought created memory, it can begin to feel like a recurring nightmare from which there seems to be no escape. But what if there was an escape from the past and its traumas?

One morning many years ago on my way to work in a nearby town, I was running up a rising slip road towards the railway station in my home-town, when I suddenly felt tears running down my face before I even realised what was happening; less than a moment before I had smelt a woman’s perfume, without even noticing the person wearing it! It was a perfume my mother had worn when I was a child and she had committed suicide when I was just 8 years old. Without a chance of preventing this thought created feeling arising in my mind I felt the emotion of a loss that I could not prevent, revisit me from out of the past. 

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